5 Ways population Sabotage Their connection and How to Avoid Them

Many habitancy come into a connection with the idea that they will always be happy and that their partner will always be honest, kind, understanding and loving. In a perfect world everybody would be this way but unfortunately we all have backgrounds. Your background is a jigsaw puzzle of events in your life which have brought you to where you are and who you are now.

You have coped with each trauma, shock or emotion with the understanding you had at the time of the event and we call it Conditioning. Most of this conditioning sets your reliance patterns by the time you are eight years old and can work on how you make your decisions today.

Jigsaw Name Puzzles

We are all well-known with the taunts in the school playground and some habitancy were on the end of some nasty name calling. At the time we had no idea of how to treat man with respect and would stab at our "opponent" with whatever words were required to get the desired effect in the moment. This would have worked in the school yard but as adults our level of mental and respect for others should rule out personal attacks.

Attacks on a man doesn't solve any issue effectively. It only inflames the situation like attacking each other with a knife. Is this how you want to treat the one you love?

It is quite okay to get "passionate" about where you stand on the issue at heart but bringing out emotional weapons is not going to get a inescapable result.

Retreating from an seminar is okay as long as you don't forget about it thoroughly - sweeping it under the carpet. After a while the floor covering will have mountains of issues under it which cause a fence in the middle of you. It will not go away by itself. If you need to have a break to think things over, do so but always make a time limit for the issue to be dealt with.

I have been reading some articles and forums with interest as many habitancy chronicle that they are jealous or are with a jealous person. A man who is jealous is verily insecure in themselves. If you are jealous of man of the same sex what is it about this man that makes you feel this way. Then look at your own life to witness where you could enhance to make you feel better about yourself.

If you are worried about your spouse/partner talking to other habitancy why do you feel that they would leave you? What can you do better to ensure that they can talk to others and still be happy to come back to you? If you hold on too tightly and not let your partner be free to talk with others you may push them away altogether. For a good example: Try keeping a cat. If you allow the cat to sit on your lap it will often stay for hours, purring as you pat it, but if you hold it tightly so it can't run away it will struggle furiously until it is free. No-one likes to feel trapped or wee and may do whatever they can to break free.

Many battles have lasted for days because two habitancy will not be "the first to give in" and "lose" the argument. How much time for love will you lose while this battle of wills? Where can it maybe lead? This behaviour can only lead to resentment and just like the weapons of name calling, it can only bring loneliness and unhappiness. Will this bring your connection closer to you or build a big wall in the middle of you?

Giving in to keep the peace is a whole new description because it has many facets but there are many habitancy who will give and give and give just so that the connection can remain "happy" and peaceful. This is an avoidance issue, like sweeping things under the floor covering but the biggest qoute with this that your partner knows that to get their own way, which can include getting out of chores or doing "equal share", they just have to make a scene, knowing you will back down. This doesn't just happen in the middle of two adult partners this may also be a parent/child relationship. Children especially recognise the extra impact a tantrum has in public places.

Your traditional connection should be happy, fun, supportive and loving. It is not usually an adventure with thoroughly plane navigation but it doesn't have to be verily hard and shouldn't be tiring. If your words aren't inescapable and uplifting do they need to be said? If they need to be said then is there a better way of getting your point over without development your partner feel bad?

I'll terminate with a quote from "A father's book of wisdom" by H Jackson Brown Jr.

"Marriage is like an empty box. It remains empty unless you put in more than you take out".

Eliza Rose

5 Ways population Sabotage Their connection and How to Avoid Them